It will also be a good indicator of his interest—if he holds the eye contact, he’s probably into you. If he looks away he might just be shy. One good trick is to look directly at him until he catches you looking. When he does, hold eye contact for a moment or two before smiling and looking away. If you’re feeling particularly cheeky, you could throw in a wink!
Smiling makes you seem friendlier and more approachable, which might be just the push your crush needs to come over and talk to you! Smiling will also make you feel happier and more confident two essential ingredients of successful flirting.
Don’t cross your arms. Crossing your arms is like the opposite of smiling - it makes you seem closed off and unapproachable, thus scaring your man away. Some people do this unconsciously when they’re nervous, so make sure to keep an eye on it. Flip your hair. Flipping your hair is a very feminine action, as it draws attention to your lustrous locks. It is also a well-recognized flirty action - so if you flip or play with your hair in front of a guy, he’ll probably know you’re flirting with him. Play with your jewelry. Playing with jewelry, such as a necklace, draws attention to your neckline, which many guys find attractive in a girl.
Walk past his desk on your way out the door, or take your dog to the same park he plays soccer at. Be careful not to overdo this, though, or you’ll end up looking like a stalker.
Keep your hair clean and fresh-smelling, brush your teeth, shave where necessary, paint your nails - anything that makes you feel pretty and puts an extra pep in your step. Wear clean, non-wrinkled clothes that you feel comfortable in - you can’t go wrong with a nice fitting pair of jeans! Try out different hairstyles - curly, straight, in a bun, in a fishtail braid - to create a fresh new look each day. The same goes for make-up - experiment with different colors and trends til you find a look that makes you feel good.
Open with a question. This will show you’re interested in getting to know him, not just interested in talking about yourself. Ask him what he thought of the latest Fast and Furious installment or whether he did anything fun over the weekend. Try to avoid asking questions that can be answered with a simple “yes” or “no” - this is a surefire way to end the conversation before it’s even begun. Transition to talking about him. People love to talk about themselves, so try to get him started on something he’s passionate about - whether it’s music, sport or plans for the future. [5] X Research source Use his name a lot. It’s a fact that people love to hear their own name in conversation - especially when it’s used by a member of the opposite sex! Calling your crush by his name will send a tingle up his spine and create a sense of intimacy between you. [6] X Research source
It will also make you look more attractive and you will come across as a happy, fun-loving person - which is exactly how you want him to view you. Laughing at his jokes will make him feel funny, which guys always like. Be careful not to overdo it though - you don’t want to sound like a cackling hyena and scare him away!
Touch his forearm lightly while you’re talking. When he makes a funny joke, reach your hand out and touch his arm while you’re laughing. Alternatively, you can do this as a form of playful or genuine consolation. Casually put a hand or elbow on his shoulder. This creates a sense of camaraderie between you and shows him that you feel completely comfortable around him. “Accidentally” lean into him if you’re walking together. If you’re already flirty and you want to move things to the next level, brush your hand against his and see how he reacts. Straighten his collar. Another sneaky tactic you can use to touch your crush is to tell him that his shirt collar (or tie) is crooked, so you can lean in to fix it. Stand squarely in front of him so you’re face to face, then casually brush your fingers against his neck as you adjust his collar. When you’re done, look him in the eyes and say “that’s better!” before taking a step back.
Rub your shoulder. Pretend you have an ache in your shoulder and pull down the neckline of your top, exposing your skin as you massage it. If you’re lucky, he’ll offer to rub it better for you. Ask if you should get your belly button pierced. For tummy-confident girls, one good technique is to pull up your top slightly and tell him you were thinking of getting your belly button pierced, then ask for his opinion on the matter. If he stammers out an answer, you’ll know your cheeky trick caught his attention. Lick your lips. Make him think about kissing you by drawing attention to your lips in front of him. Lick your lips, bite them, apply some lip gloss - anything as long as you do it with an air of nonchalance. Be careful not to overdo things here - drawing attention to your body can work very well, but only if it’s used in moderation. Otherwise you can seem desperate and attention-seeking, so avoid prancing around in front of him in a bikini (unless you’re at the beach - in which case; go for it!)
Make it very obvious that you’re choosing to dance with him. Grab his hands and pull him away from the group. If he goes with you willingly, you’ll know that he’s into it. You can try to dance sexily if you like, but avoid grinding on him or being too overtly sexual - it’s inappropriate in front of other people and you might just make him feel uncomfortable. If he’s an awkward dancer, you can try to make him feel more at ease by breaking out some wacky dance moves of your own - just be silly and have fun with it - if you can make him laugh, then it’s worth it. Try to work in a slow dance if you can. Put your arms on his shoulders and let him hold you tightly around the waist. Gaze up into his eyes as you gently sway - he’ll melt inside.
Be specific. The more specific you are, the more personal the compliment will be. If you say something generic such as “I think you’re hot,” chances will be that he’s heard it before. If you focus on a specific trait or quality that you love, the compliment will be fresh and you’ll stick out in his mind. If he’s on a sports team and you saw him play, praise his performance. If you heard him playing his guitar or drums, compliment his playing. If you’re feeling more intimate, tell him that you love the color of his eyes - and use it as an excuse to gaze into them. When giving the compliment, lean in close and lower your voice slightly. This makes the compliment seem intimate and secret. Make eye contact while you give the compliment and keep smiling slightly. This will highlight your sincerity and show him that you’re genuinely impressed. Just make sure not to overdo it on the compliments or make them too fake. This will significantly lessen their impact and he might stop taking you seriously. One simple, sincere compliment is better than 100 fake ones.
Tease him about small, unimportant things - pretend you think he has a crush on his Math teacher, or joke that he loves his dog more than any human being. If he’s particularly good looking, ask him how his Abercrombie interview went; if he’s just been to the gym, make an exaggerated comment about his huge muscles - rather than being offensive, you want your teasing to be more of a veiled compliment! Never get too personal with your teasing, or he might take it the wrong way - insulting his family, his performance at work or school, or criticizing his appearance should be off-limits - at least until you know him better.
Leave an opening for next time by making theoretical plans. For example, if you both want to see a new movie that’s coming out, you could say something like, “We should totally go see that movie sometime. " That way, you’ve already planted the idea that you’ll see him again. [16] X Expert Source Candice MostisserRelationship Coach Expert Interview. 24 January 2020. Lean in like you want a kiss, but at the last minute turn your head and whisper “I had a great time” in his ear.
Say something like “Haha, yeah right! So what are you doing this weekend?:)” Give it a minute or two, then send a second message saying something like “Oops, wrong person, sorry! But what are you doing this weekend? ;)” This will make it seem like you didn’t intentionally start a conversation, but you’re happy to have one anyway.
For example, text something like “Just saw a giant teddy bear in the window of a toy shop - made me think of you. " or “Quickly - help me choose: doughnut or chocolate muffin?”
Respond to one or two items per message, but try to leave some of his questions hanging. This will give you an air of mystery and make him want to know the answer even more. On the same note, don’t bombard him with questions in every message - this will also make you seem over-eager and he might find responding more hassle than it’s worth. Keep your messages short and sweet.
Play it safe at first - there’s no need to be too racy, you just need to give him the idea that you want to be with him. Something cute like “I’m just about to watch a scary movie - wish you were here to stop me from being too scared!” If he responds in the same flirty tone, you can feel safe to continue. Try paying him a flirty compliment by saying something like “I can’t stop thinking about how great your arms looked in that shirt today. " If you want to get a little racier, you could try being even more suggestive. For instance, if he texts you but you don’t reply for at least half an hour you could say something like “Sorry, I was in the shower. . . " His mind will do the rest.
Try to exercise a little self-control and refrain from texting every time your crush pops into your head. Wait until you have something truly interesting and important to say. And if you send more than two texts without receiving a reply, cut yourself off. You should also avoid always being the first one to text. Be a little mysterious and aloof and wait for him to text you. If he does, you’ll know he’s interested. Never send messages that only contain answers like “k” or “lol”. This can be extremely frustrating and will give your crush nothing to respond to.
Text him a picture of you and a group of friends at the back or mall and add “wanna join?” Text him a picture of yourself lying on the couch and write “Bored. Entertain me?” Text him a picture of a movie poster or concert flyer and just write “Interested?”
“Hey! I just watched the trailer for the new Batman movie, I’m dying to see it. Wanna go this weekend?” or “Craving a caramel frappuccino! Meet me after school? Coffee’s on me. :)” Even if he says no, you don’t need to panic. Over text, it’s easy to play it cool. Just say something like “No problem. Some other time. " Then leave it up to him whether to continue the conversation or not.
