As lame as it sounds, don’t be afraid to practice your walk in your home. Try to find a place with mirrors so you can observe yourself. Sometimes, people have nervous twitches that they don’t even notice, so don’t be embarrassed to practice a little bit.

This doesn’t mean you should stare at her — that can be a little creepy. It’s okay to break eye contact occasionally.

Avoid pick-up lines. Women are attracted to genuineness, so don’t act like you’re using a flirting manual to talk to her. Tell her confidently why you approached her. You can say anything from, “I saw you from across the room and I had to come say hi to someone so gorgeous,” to, “I really wanted to introduce myself to someone with such a beautiful smile. ” If you don’t want to use a compliment right off the bat for fear of sounding cheesy, make sure you plan another logical opener. If you have mutual friends, you can say, “You’re friends with ____, right? I recognized you and had to come say hello. ” You can even make an observation to start off a conversation, like, “I noticed you’re eating _____, isn’t it excellent?” By planning something to say, you’ll avoid an awkward silence.

If you’re at a party, you can ask her how she knows the host. If you’re out somewhere ask her simple introductory questions: her name, what she does, where she’s from, and the like. Once you find out a little bit about her, you can ask more personalized, in-depth questions.

If she says something negative, support her opinion but offer a positive spin on things. If she says something about the weather being awful, you can say something along the lines of, “It’s not great, but at least we can suffer through it together. ”

If she talks about her job, you can say something like, “It sounds like you’re extremely intelligent to manage all of that. " If you tell a joke to make her laugh, you can offer her something like, “You have a unique laugh. I like it. " You won’t look like an alpha male just by telling her she’s hot.

A fun way to start a lighthearted back-and-forth with a woman you’ve just met is to act like you’ve known her forever. Once she starts talking a bit about herself, you can say something like, “Oh [her name], you’ve always been so funny/stubborn/clumsy/observant/nerdy. " You can create attraction by making her laugh and feel comfortable. [6] X Research source

If things don’t go smoothly and she doesn’t seem interested, do not worry or stress over it. Even alpha males get rejected sometimes, but it doesn’t matter. The key to being an alpha is not needing anyone else to validate you, so carry on. Rejection is nothing to fear.

There are alpha males who look like Zac Efron, with huge muscles and perfect clothes. There are also alpha males like Bill Clinton, who find power in confidence and intellect. Being an alpha male is more about mindset than it is about outward appearance. [8] X Research source

A truly confident person can accept criticism, can allow someone else to step into the spotlight, and admit it when he’s wrong (without over-apologizing).

Looking like an alpha male is like exercising a new muscle. Every time you do it, it will become easier and easier. Eventually, you’ll start to feel like an alpha male as well.